I jumped in my car after a nine-hour workday ready to take on my next job. I mentally started a to do list of what needed to get done when I got home—make dinner, clean up the kitchen, give the kids baths, play with my kiddos and get them ready for story time then bed. Then if I’m not too tired, spend some time with my husband before he goes to bed. Then I might jump on my computer and work more on the business that I am so desperately trying to start… on and on it goes.

I had a revelation in that moment—that to be the best me, I needed to give myself time to just be. I texted my husband and checked in to see if it would be okay if I took some time for myself—of course he said yes.

I wasn’t sure what to do with myself at first, but soon found myself in a TJ Maxx doing some window shopping. I started out by browsing the purses, then some home decor items, tried on some clothes and some jewelry, all the while not worrying about any boxes that I needed to check off. Just being and enjoying my own company.

I realized in that moment it didn’t matter how much I love my husband and my kids, and how
much my job expected of me. I can never be the best version of myself if I was always worrying about the next thing I needed to check off my list. Sometimes you just have to say no to the constant checklists that can flood your mind.

Moms, please don’t make your only me time when you’re doing the grocery shopping for the week or when you’re doing the dishes after a long day. I encourage you to get out there and have some Momma time, whether it’s getting a coffee, going out for a walk, shopping, baking… or maybe you love to dance or sing—do that!

It is so so so important to remember to have some time to yourself to refresh! That way you can be the wife and mom you were born to be.

With love,

Kyra